Breakups, Situationships & Relationship Clarity

Mixed signals, ghosting, “situationships”. 

Dating in NYC can stir up much more than just a desire for connection—it often activates deeper, unconscious material. In our work together, we explore what gets stirred up in the dating process: the self-doubt that surfaces after being ghosted, the anxiety that creeps in before a date, or the internalized belief that you’re “too much” or “not enough” to be loved.

Often, these reactions are less about the person across the table and more about patterns that took root in earlier relationships—like how you learned to protect yourself, what you expected from closeness, or what it once meant to be loved or let down.

Through insight-oriented work, we’ll explore how attachment patterns and relational dynamics might be showing up—so dating doesn’t feel like such an emotional rollercoaster. We will untangle the defenses (like perfectionism or people-pleasing) that once kept you safe but now interfere with intimacy. We make space to understand and feel the parts of you that long for connection while also bracing for disappointment. And we explore what it means to seek out emotional safety in relationships—not just chemistry.

Over time, you will begin to develop more compassionate self-observation, make different choices in who to pursue, and tolerate the vulnerability that real intimacy requires.